Approach
Explore the Roots. Plant the Seeds.
Our experiences and relationships shape how we see ourselves and navigate life. Sometimes, familiar coping patterns can leave us feeling stuck. My approach blends self-exploration with practical strategies to help you understand the roots of your challenges and plant the seeds for meaningful change.
Understanding Your Experiences & Patterns
Counselling and therapy begins with understanding what brings you here and what you hope to gain from our work together. Whether you're seeking change, relief from ongoing challenges, or a deeper understanding of yourself, we'll identify goals that feel meaningful to you.
I believe understanding where we've been helps us make sense of where we are today. Together, we'll explore how early experiences, relationships, and attachment patterns may have shaped your beliefs, emotional responses, and ways of coping.
From there, we can begin recognizing patterns, understanding their origins, and exploring new ways forward. I blend self-exploration with practical strategies, mindfulness, visualization, and other approaches that support emotional processing and coping. I may also incorporate elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), although it isn't a primary focus of my practice.
Having worked for many years in public education, I also specialize in supporting educational professionals experiencing burnout, compassion fatigue, and workplace challenges.
A Collaborative, Client-Led Approach
My approach is gentle, collaborative, and sometimes sprinkled with humour. I believe you're the expert on your own experiences, and my role is to offer guidance and perspective without pushing you in a particular direction.
We'll work at a pace that respects your comfort, emotional readiness, personal circumstances, and financial capacity. While I can be more directive when helpful, I also value helping you build confidence in communicating your needs, advocating for yourself, and making your own decisions.
Ultimately, my goal is to help you develop the self-understanding and skills to move forward in ways that feel right for you.
Trauma Processing & EMDR
For those interested in deeper trauma work, I may incorporate Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) when appropriate. EMDR is safe and effective in online therapy.
EMDR isn't typically where I begin. I prioritize building a trusting relationship, understanding your experiences, and developing the resources needed to support trauma processing.
If EMDR feels like a good fit, we'll explore it together and determine when you're ready. Trauma work is always approached thoughtfully, collaboratively, and at a pace that respects your needs.
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Online sessions offer the same personalized support as in-person counselling, with the convenience of attending from your own space.
There are a few differences to consider. Connecting through a screen can make it harder to pick up on subtle body language, and some people prefer the connection of meeting face-to-face. You'll also need a private, comfortable space and a reliable internet connection. Certain therapeutic exercises may be adapted for virtual sessions.
Neither option is necessarily better. What matters most is choosing a format where you feel comfortable, connected, and supported.
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You decide what you share. You can let me know when something feels too difficult, ask to slow down, or change the focus. We can begin by building trust and exploring what would help you feel more supported.
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You don’t need to know which type of therapy to ask for. We’ll discuss what brings you here, what you hope will change, and what has or hasn’t helped before.
I draw on different approaches to support your goals. We’ll check in about how the work feels and adjust together.
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Early experiences can influence what we believe about ourselves, how we connect with others, and how we respond to stress. Exploring these connections can help us understand why certain situations feel especially difficult or why familiar patterns keep repeating.
For example, if expressing your needs once led to criticism, you might now find it difficult to ask for support. Recognizing that connection can create space for self-compassion and opportunities to practice something different.
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Understanding a pattern gives us a starting point. Together, we can notice when it shows up, explore what purpose it has served, and practise new responses. This might involve setting boundaries, communicating your needs, working through painful experiences, or building skills to manage overwhelming emotions.
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Attachment is the emotional bond we form with the people we turn to for comfort, care, and safety. Our early experiences with caregivers can shape what we expect from relationships, how we express our needs, and how we respond to closeness or conflict.
In therapy, exploring attachment can help us understand patterns such as finding it hard to trust, worrying about rejection, or pulling away when relationships feel vulnerable. These patterns aren’t fixed labels. We can work toward greater flexibility, connection, and confidence in relationships.
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EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a structured therapy used to help people work through traumatic and distressing experiences. It can be safely provided online.
During part of the process, you briefly focus on aspects of a memory while engaging in guided side-to-side eye movements or another form of alternating stimulation, such as tapping. The aim is to reduce the distress connected with the experience.
I do not use EMDR as the first-line of treatment, and I only use EMDR with adults.
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Mindfulness means paying attention to the present moment with curiosity and less judgment. It can involve noticing your thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, or surroundings.
You don’t have to empty your mind or sit still for long periods. In therapy, we might try a brief grounding exercise or practice noticing an emotion before responding. We’ll adapt these practices or even experiment to what feels useful and comfortable for you.
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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is an approach that explores how our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours influence one another. It helps us recognize unhelpful thinking patterns, challenge beliefs that may be keeping us stuck, and develop healthier ways of responding to life's challenges.
While CBT isn't the primary focus of my practice, I may incorporate some of its practical strategies when they complement our work together.
Areas of Practice
Relational and Historical Trauma
Grief and loss
Education professionals
Emotional regulation and coping
Life transitions and Uncertainty
Identity Exploration